I’m not that girl

 I’ve never been that girl

That girl who comes out of a relationship and instantly finds herself in another effortlessly

Like it was destiny

I guess it was just never destined for me to be that girl

That girl who never stops having people confess their unyielding love for them

That girl who people can’t stop talking about how pretty they are

That girl who can get guys to buy her a drink at the bar all of the smack of her patent leather soft lips and a little hair flip just like

Effortlessly like it was destiny 

I guess it was just never destined for me

To be that girl

That girl who knows how to flirt properly

That girl who can put their makeup on flawlessly

That girl who can post a photo on instagram and not find a million insincerities lurking at the tips of her fingers as she presses the share button

And I know I shouldn’t let these things define my femininity

I know I shouldn’t let these things bother me but they do

It’s like having a lack of male attention in this world  

Is seen as an abnormality

It is seen as less than womanly

And I’m always forced to ask myself “what’s wrong with me?”

Maybe it’s because I was never destined to be that girl

Maybe it’s because I was destined to be something more

That girl who just lives her life

That girl who loves herself for who she is and doesn’t rely on male attention to make herself feel alright

That girl who knows what she wants and fights until it’s hers

That girl who still has insincerities but at the end of the day, just says, “Whatever

Because we all know who runs the world


I wanna be that girl


Link: https://youtu.be/pfCjSo-Nklg


  1. This is beautiful, I constantly try to make girls close to me understand that male attention isn’t the be all and end all. This piece does a great justice to that topic. Let every girl know that she is Enough, male attention or not!

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  2. in reality, this only makes you stronger. one little truth is “flashy gets boring quick” and the “flashy” will usually have one big insecure question in the end; “why exactly is he here?”

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